Feeling Confident!
Sometimes life can be a bummer, and it knocks down your confidence. No worries, though! Here are some helpful tips to feel confident in your social life, body, and work!
Feeling confident may look different for everyone, but there are some key essentials to feeling your absolute best in every situation and experience.
For me personally, confidence has always shifted from super high to extremely low. And this is completely normal. But who doesn’t want to be confident all the time? It sounds amazing, right?
In the past, high school to be clear and middle school, I was the most sociable person I’ve ever known. I loved befriending people. It felt nice to get to know people who were always around me. It made sense. You know, you see these people all the time, and rather than walk past them every day, why not be friends? Making friends was a piece of cake. I would randomly start talking about anything, and it usually sparked up a conversation that led to a friendship. Although now I would say anyone I’m having a conversation with that lasts more than five minutes is a friend.
The trick for me in being confident was just that it was interesting hearing about other people. That was enough for me to get over the nerves or anxiousness of whether they will give me the same energy back or even talk to me. At the same time, I didn’t really care if someone wasn’t connecting with me. If it worked out, perfect! If it didn’t, whatever.
I was always being myself though. And somehow people enjoyed my randomness, which I’d say is sort of my specialty. Secret weapon almost. It’s good to know that sometimes some people deserve the real you. While others, not so much. This is where having good judgment comes in handy, but that’s probably for a different conversation.
So how do you feel confident? Take a moment and write down how you express your confidence now. And what you would want to change about it. Hopefully, my tips will give you some fresh ideas or add to what you already want to do.
Tips on social confidence!
Learning to be a social butterfly!
This can take up some time depending on how you feel talking to people. You could love small talk or dread it. You could love deep convos or hate it. And there’s nothing wrong if you don’t want to be a social butterfly. If it’s not you, it's simply not you. However, for those are you that want to be more outgoing, keep reading. Sometimes being a social butterfly helps with confidence because you realize it’s easy to talk to anyone. It’s like practice, you keep at it, and it becomes instinctive. Being social with others gives you the confidence to see how extraordinary you are, and how others see it as well and take notice of who you are as a person that’s enjoyable being around.
Being genuine and honest.
Being openly honest with others comes off as very confident in expressing your feelings and thoughts. This is not an easy thing to do. For example, nowadays, when people ask others how their day is, our automatic answer is good, fine, great! It becomes easier to hide what we feel and think. However, people appreciate honesty. Appreciate yourself for always being open even if others can’t do it. It shows strength. And that you don’t mess around. Having a certain attitude and mindset about this will definitely pay off in the long run. If you act first, others will reciprocate and follow. People will genuinely enjoy the person you are presenting.
Being unapologetically yourself.
Always, always be your true self. Being confident doesn’t stream from presenting a persona that isn’t you. I know we’ve all had our share of wanting to make a good impression, but inventing this person will damage your self-confidence because you’ll think no one will like the truest form of yourself. That is an absolutely absurd thought to have in the back of your mind. Slowly, you’ll start to doubt yourself and your character, which is exactly what I don’t want. You guys deserve the best. Believe that whoever likes you will cherish the real you, without a doubt. If the person shows otherwise, they are not worth your time and energy! Lastly, never apologize for being you. Be yourself to the fullest, and if others don’t like it, forget ‘em.
Not giving a crap.
Confidence does not come from caring what others think. It comes from not caring. You being you, and not caring what others have to say about you. You know you are special. If anyone ever tries to degrade that self-respect you have, it will fail because of the attitude you have. Truth is, not everyone will like you. I had to learn that through some friendships I thought were serving me. I know, not caring is the ultimate weapon to having confidence. It’s honestly hard to not care because we do care about what others think of us, and how much they like something that we do. This is bad because it can be limiting of ourselves for the sake of others. Do not hold back on being you just because someone can’t “handle” it. You know who you are, what you love, own it! Who cares if someone thinks you talk a lot. There will be another person who thinks you talk just enough. Be proud of yourself!
Tips on body confidence!
Trying a new sleeping method.
One trick that I do ALL the time to feel better about my body is sleeping naked. Yup, you read that. You sleep so much more comfortably and it helps you feel comfortable in your body! It’s honestly such a small thing to do, but it helps. I know we all feel up and down with our bodies because we’re constantly changing, which is completely normal, but sometimes this throws us off and makes us feel different about our bodies. This is exactly how I feel every time I get bloated. I don’t like the feeling, and I feel like a watermelon. Although it’s normal to get bloated, I still can help not feeling good about my body. We always want to present our better version of ourselves, right? Yea.
Journaling
Something to start today is a journal including all things about your body. If you find that hamburgers don’t make you feel good when you eat them, write that down! If you feel you’ve lost or gained weight, write it down! The more you write and learn about your body, the more you will ease up on yourself and just accept how amazing you already are. You’ll see that your body is always changing.
Nurture your body.
TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY! Once you find out what harms your body, minimize the intake of it. Every single day you should be taking a few minutes to pay attention to your body. Appreciate it. Nurture it. Go out for a massage. Get some expensive lotion. Or a nice perfume. Get something to stretch out your back. Anything catered to your liking, and your body’s, absolutely do it! Self-care is the most amazing you time. And being with yourself can be so relaxing. Your body is your temple. Your home. Your one existence to be able to connect and communicate with others, so give it a break once in a while.
I highly think our thoughts and feelings are connected to how our bodies feel. Honestly, when I’m angry, my body gets so tense. It’s automatically matching my mood. And it’s not until later in the day that I realize how tense my body was. If you feel good, you'll look good if that makes sense hehe.
Tips on work confidence!
Ask questions.
Okay, in this area, I wouldn’t say I could give good advice because I haven’t had much experience in the work field. I’ve ever had one job working in a beef jerky factory hah. However, I did go ahead and start this blog so that’s something. All I can really say about having work confidence is don’t be afraid to ask for help. Asking for help or advice shows that you truly want to get better at whatever it is that you’re doing. Even if you make mistakes, keep going. Mistakes never harm you. Mistakes are only lessons for the future. Be confident that you’ll figure out how to get the job or sale this certain product to a customer. A good work ethic takes time and patience. As long as you commit and love what you do nothing can tear you down.
I definitely had some doubts about starting a blog because what if people don’t listen to me? What if I never get views or comments? These questions are a bunch of what if’s, and they only stop the real progress I could be making. So I just started and I keep working on my blog to this day. Whether it brings me anything or nothing I will commit to it because I love writing. And helping other people who are going through the same as me. Being able to relate and connect is a huge passion of mine.
Working in groups/ teams.
Working in teams are sooo beneficial. I love working in teams personally because you can get a lot of feedback with whatever is stressing you out or what you aren’t a hundred percent sure about. Teamwork allows you to get other perspectives and thoughts that will hopefully mold your own ideas and feelings toward any project. Plus, it’s another great way to enter with lots of questions.
Feeling confident is all about putting in the time to love yourself and be your best version. Working on who you want to be. Confidence starts with you. Sometimes you have to build your confidence from the ground up. And other times, you’ll find the confidence in yourself through little details that are already apart of yourself. Never doubt how good life can be for you!
Have a lovely day beauties!
