Let Go of the Negative Energy.
Negative energy is draining when it holds onto us. It has the power to ruin our mood, relationships, and more. Here is what I think you can do today to gradually get rid of the negative energy in your life.
Even though we don’t like negative energy, it has its way of sneaking into our lives and completely disrupting everything. Whether it appears in our relationships, at our jobs, at home, it’s present, and sometimes it can’t be helped because we let it be there. We hold onto it because it’s what we know best.
Sometimes it’s easier to tell yourself you’re going to fail because you’ve never known what it feels like to win. It’s out of our comfort zone. Negative energy is, but not always, attached to our comfort levels.
For me, I can say I held on to negative energy because it’s what I was so used to. In the past, I would always doubt myself and never give myself credit for obstacles I did overcome. I was blind by default because I choose to believe the worst in myself. I was honestly so scared of what something good was going to feel like. I thought that anything good wouldn’t exist without something bad.
This kind of thinking kept me in a fixed mindset. It kept me in the dark when I could’ve been way outside the box of potential.
So, with that in mind, the first step to getting rid of negative energy is figuring out what brings that negative energy around you.
Are there any triggers to your negative energy? (a friend who brings you down, is it yourself, looking at your life and seeing no accomplishments.)
Is the negative energy coming from the type of perspective you have on life? (No good will ever come, life is too difficult, nobody likes you, these are just examples.)
Is it a form of something bigger? (depression or any other mental/ physical illness, past traumas)
Is it from bad experiences? (bad relationships, having the worst job, losing a loved one, general bad experiences repeating themselves, etc etc)
It can be one of these listed above or it can be a combination of them, but whatever it is, pay real close attention to the root of the cause.
Once you know what causes the negative energy, it’s good to write down everything about that certain situation. This makes it less likely to repeat itself. You also hold yourself responsible and accountable for it happening again. If writing it down isn’t your thing, then take mental notes as you go. This is a crucial step!
Whatever the issue is, you must be willing to come to terms with it even if you don’t want it to be true. Once you face the problem at hand everything will become more clear and easier!
(Speaking from experience, I know how difficult it can be to change so quickly. And sometimes all we need to do is just sit down and let the feelings, thoughts, emotions pour out of us because it allows us to understand ourselves and the world better. Understanding our pain and emotions is a super skill that saves us so much time and energy. This does take A LOT of effort though, and strength to ride your emotions out, and reflect on them. Healing in any form never comes easy, but what in life does?)
The second step: Removing yourself from the situation, trigger, person, etc.
Let’s say a friend you constantly hang out with is constantly negative about the world, and it brings you down as well. The best action to take is to avoid this person, remove yourself from the relationship, and look for others who inspire you with the way they think or relatively already have the same belief systems and mindsets.
Everyone by now would have heard the phrase, “You are what you eat.” And this statement not only applies to your eating habits but everything around you. All of what you consume on a daily basis.
Continuing with the negative friend example, back when you were their friend, for instance, they watched a lot of scary, horror, gruesome movies and shows. Nothing else. They forced you to watch. Watching those types of movies and shows affects you. It’s very possible that those scary movies would make you live in fear, even make you paranoid. As consuming something as that, becomes the default in your life. Your brain is trained to understand the world from that certain perspective.
*As a little side shadow work, consider what other forms of consumption you are surrounding yourself with, does it benefit you? Does it instill certain beliefs you don’t like? For example, even though it’s your favorite kind of music, does it always automatically make you sad? Don’t get me wrong, you can still enjoy all the things you enjoy, though there are more obvious times to engage in them rather than plummeting yourself into a cycle of sad music if that makes sense.*
The Third Step: Moving Forward.
I know my tips are rather simple, but they are effective. Most of the work has to be done by you. I can only serve as a guide to what may help you. But as you move forward remember the changes you want to make. Remind yourself of the pain or negative energy that you don’t want to go through again. You have to be willing to move forward in order to heal.
I wish you all the best on this journey! :)
Sincerely,
Juliette <3
